Even in your thoughts...

One of the things that have always been big to me is words. If you have heard of the five love languages, physical touch and words of affirmation are at the top of my list. Words are huge and what you say, how you say it, and who you say it to are so important. Sometimes it even goes deeper than that. Your thoughts are just as important because most of the time we are thinking about what we are going to say. Yeah, I know there are people out there who think before they speak but that's hard to believe. The mind is so powerful and I would like to believe that people are thinking all of the time. I am no where near being a psychologist though so I won't try to debate this.

This is a topic that I am very passionate about it I know not everybody will relate because we all have different personalities. I took the Myers-Briggs personality test and my personality is an ESFJ. The "F" stands for feelings and I had a very high score on that. That means I feel everything. I take words straight to the heart. It has both its advantages and disadvantages. I love people and love being able to help, listen, and encourage them with whatever they are going through. A disadvantage would be that somebody could be totally joking about something but it affects me until I am told it was just a joke, and then I am just kinda shell-shocked after the thought. Don't get me wrong, feeling everything can take a toll on your energy and emotions and takes a lot out of me but I wouldn't trade that character trait for anything.

What I am trying to say is that if you feel a lot of things like I do, you're going to really enjoy this post and it will be very practical for you, and if you don't, you might still enjoy it but it won't mean as much.

So picture this. Imagine a world where people only had nice things to say about each other and to each other. That probably won't ever happen until we are in heaven, but just picture it. Have you ever intentionally said something nice to someone and just felt good about yourself? Or vice versa. Has someone ever encouraged you with something and then you felt really good about yourself. We have to do that more. Your life will change when you begin to say nice things to each other and when you change the way you think.

My goal and encouragement for you is that you begin to live your life that way. Make it a goal for yourself that you will try to say something nice to someone and think positively about others to the best of your ability.

I have to point out that this might be easier for women than it is for men. There are a lot more women who are more willing and able to open up to each other than men. Guys have a hard time getting into their feelings when they're around other guys. I don't know why, but it's usually just the way it is. Don't get me wrong, not all guys are like this, but some.

Why am I encouraging words of affirmation, encouragement, and positivity?

It's pretty much impossible to say anything bad about someone, they'll always find out...so why waste your time and energy saying things that aren't nice and thinking wrongly when you have no reason to think like that.

"Even in your thoughts, do not curse the king, nor in your bedroom curse the rich, for a bird of the air will carry your voice, or some winged creature tell the matter." (Ecclesiastes 10:20) 

What I get from this is that even in our thoughts, we should never curse anybody. Even though it's your thoughts, you can't just keep those to yourself. You might think you can, but eventually your thoughts will turn into words. There are people out there who are always going to rat you out and tell people what you had to say about them. Always. Even if people are not trying to rat you out, what you had to say will get out there to the person who it was directed to. There are not many people out there who you can trust with everything.

My prayer and hope for you is that you start to live a life where you don't even think about thinking wrongly about someone. It's tough and takes a lot of practice. If you are willing to do this, it will require a lot of prayer, faithfulness, and obedience. I know you can do it. If I can, you can.

Even in your thoughts...you can change the world with the way you think and the words you say.