Would you believe me if I told you that three people could change my life in less than a months time? I am going to write a story to you telling you about how three people had an impact on my life greater than any words that I could ever use to write with. These wonderful people capped off my Bethel experience in a way better than anything I could come up with myself.
Here is a story about the taco gang...
It was Super Bowl Sunday. Brooke Conrady one of my closest friends invited me over to her house with a bunch of people I have never met before to watch the Super Bowl. For me, I like my Sundays to have a mix of productivity and rest. I enjoy getting up early and going to church, taking a nap and then grinding on homework and working out later in the night. Sundays are also days where I usually stick to myself and do my own thing. I was playing around with the idea to go to Brooke's in my head all day and she finally convinced me to go. I think what sold me was that there was going to be food. But in all actuality I wanted to make some new friends. I arrived at Brooke's and found myself a place on the couch because I had a paper to write along with a Spanish test to study for. I was stressing out about my Spanish test because I am well below average when it comes to Spanish. I was sitting on the couch and in the chair right next to me was Hannah Darling. I had seen Hannah a bunch of times on campus but had never talked to her before. She asked me what I was studying and I told her Spanish. With excitement she told me that she was a Spanish tutor. Heck yeah. I told myself that I was going to be just fine. After about 5 minutes of talking she created the perfect cheat sheet for me to study from and that helped me to well on the test. Hannah and I talked a lot throughout the game and I knew that I had made a new friend that night.
Now a little back story here. When I came to Bethel my freshmen year, I remember Coach Mike Lightfoot telling the basketball team how important relationships are. Not only the relationships with guys on the team but relationships with other people on campus. Ever since he told me that, I made it a priority to make some friends that weren't on the basketball team. It's a thing here for basketball players to only hang with basketball players, soccer to hang only with soccer, or music majors to only hangout with music majors, etc. Sometimes it's just easier that way. It's easier because as humans we like to hang out with people and be friends with them if they have the same interests. It can be difficult to be friends with girls at Bethel as well. At a place like Bethel, if you hang out with a girl who you are just friends with, everybody thinks you are dating. I don't like that it's that way, but it's just the way it has been the entire time I have been here.
If you take anything aways from that last paragraph, I want you to understand that this is sometimes a hard place for people who are not alike to get along and spend time tougher. There can be a lot of judgment that swirls around and opinions from people that you just have to forget about.
My new friend Hannah, is on the softball team and you normally don't see a basketball player and a softball player be friends and spend time together. Well, I am Luke Fisher the person. Not Luke Fisher the basketball player. God just blessed me with the opportunity to play basketball and meet some amazing people doing so. Hannah Darling is not Hannah the softball player. Hannah Darling is Hannah Darling, one of the most wonderful people that I have met while I have been here. I pushed the stereotype aside and we became close friends due to our time together while she was tutoring me.
So who is the next part of the taco gang? My man Elijah Kerr. Elijah and I have been cool all year. We see each other, dap each other up, have some small talk and go on with our day. One of the things that I noticed about Elijah is that we seemed to be a lot alike. He wasn't just hanging out with soccer players all the time. He clearly put in the effort with other people on campus and it shows. Elijah and I had two classes together this semester, Business Policy and Public Relations. At Bethel, class sizes are small, but at the same time, you really only notice who sits around you in class. For almost the entire semester we had PR together but never really talked that much in it. The last month and a half we have been working on a group project and my group sat in front of Elijah's so we were able to talk quite a bit. Those small conversations led to much more. We have done homework and studied together and I have really enjoyed getting to know him more and more. Elijah is a cool dude. We have a lot in common and I am thankful for how close we have gotten this semester.
Allie Schweigert rounds out the taco gang. I had see her around all of the time but we never had said anything to each other because we really didn't have anything to say. I mean we had said hi but nothing else really. I had heard cool things about her but really didn't know what she was like. Back at midterms, I was standing up in the front of class waiting to turn in my midterm and she was right behind me. Allie is close friends with Ariana who was one of the girls who was in the car with me back in December when I slid all over the place on the toll road driving to Bethel. Ari had told Allie about what had happened to us, so Allie asked me about it when we were turning in our midterms. I remember thinking, I want to be friends with her! So a couple more weeks went by with just a little small talk here and there but nothing too deep. One night I decided to go to the coffee shop to study some Spanish and I saw that Allie was in there. I had sat a table right behind her and she asked me what I was studying and I told her Spanish and she insisted that she help me in whatever way that she could. We ended up sitting and chatting for about an hour and a half that night getting to know each other and really starting a new friendship. It was a lot of fun. Allie is a delight be around and to spend time with. One thing I have to share with you about Allie is that when I heard back about a job that I didn't get, she went out of her way to drive to Krispy Kreme and buy me a couple donuts. With the donuts she wrote me a card encouraging me to "donut worry about it." I knew right after that, I was going to have to keep these friends around and not ever let them go. A random act of kindness can open the floodgates to a blessing of a friendship.
So it turns out, we all had Public Relations together. The groups in class that I was telling you all about, Elijah, Hannah, and Allie were all in the same group that sat right behind me. I didn't know that Elijah was good friends with Hannah and Allie. We would sit in class and the four of us would sit, talk and laugh about so many things. I just thought it was a special class and we would never actually hang outside of class. I thought that because that is how things are sometimes. You meet some cool people in class and then nothing really happens. God has different plans.
I won't forget this day. It was a Thursday and I had promised Hannah that I would buy her some tacos because she sacrificed a lot of time to help me study for my Spanish quizzes and tests. We were planning to go get tacos that night and when we were confirming our plans in class, Allie seemed super interested in going as well. So the three of us were going to go. There was one thing missing. We couldn't leave out Elijah. He was itching to go as well. So we made plans. All four of us were going to get tacos together. I remember showing up and I was so excited to get to know these three wonderful people a little better. My excitement was greeted with nervousness. I didn't know much about these three. What were we going to talk about at dinner? Were we going to run out of things to say? As soon as we sat down at the table we were a riot from the very beginning. Instant chemistry was happening between all of us. We were having so much fun. I was so fulfilled because I had gotten to know some other people who weren't like me a lot better. I never thought that I would be out to dinner with those three and it happened. During dinner we were already talking about what was next.
I want to point out that this post isn't only about the taco gang. They played a huge roll in me meeting so many wonderful people the past month and half. Without the taco gang I would have left Bethel with a cup that was only half full.
Hannah is an RA in her building and every Sunday she cooks meals for people and it's pretty much an open invite. She invited me, Elijah, and Allie and you betcha I was going. I got there and there were lots of people I didn't know. Mahri, who is Hannah's roommate was one of those people. She is wonderful! She has made so much popcorn for me whenever we go over to their room to hang out. I was blown away by how amazing of hosts Hannah and Mahri were. They wanted everyone to come. That was eye opening to me, because I would normally just invite the people I know the best, but they were the total opposite. It was awesome. For a college student to buy that many groceries for a handful of people was really cool to see. I remember sitting in Hannah and Mahri's room that night being full and yet again, very fulfilled. This feeling of fulfillment seemed to be a common feeling I would get while I was hanging with all of these great people. I believe that feeling came from a feeling of longing. I have made many amazing friends during my time year at Bethel but these people are the friend's I've been praying for.
Besides our Sunday meals, it has been hard to find time for all of us to hangout together. We are all involved in a lot of things and this is the busiest time of year so the Sundays when we got to hang out were even that much more special. With the taco gang we have clean fun. We all have our levels of fun that we have with different friends. But good and clean fun doesn't compare to any other sort of fun. Clean fun is like the fun you have with your parents and family friends. I think that is some of the funnest times are when you're around your family because you aren't putting on any sort of front for the other people that you are hanging out with.
The taco gang is supportive and encouraging of one another. If we need to have a serious talk I know that I could sit down with any of them and be real, genuine, authentic and my real-self. There have bee times this past month where I have needed someone to talk to about something and I know that I can pick up my phone and call or FaceTime any one of those three.
One of the things that has made me sad is we all got super close at the end of the school year. But I have been told many times over and over again that the end is what matters more than the beginning. When I turned in my last final of undergrad today I was honestly sad. I was happy to be done with school, but to think about this chapter coming to an end brought tears to my eyes. My eyes didn't just get watery. I had tears trickling down my cheeks when I got back to my room after I had turned in my final. I was sad because I learned how fulfilling relationships are to the fullest. I praise God for brining so many wonderful people to Bethel but specifically for the taco gang. To get close with a group of three people who had so many other friends that I got to meet and become friends with was about as uplifting and fulfilling as it gets.
The last month my life has really changed because of the people here at Bethel. To God be the glory. For anybody who has more school left, try to meet as many people as you possibly can. Be a social butterfly. Don't sit in your room all day. Get out, put yourself in situations where you will be around people and forced to interact with people. I have spent time in the coffee shop here at Bethel everyday because I know that I will see people I know and will be able to talk to whoever walks through those doors. Even though I sometimes sit and am locked into writing a blog post like I am right now. In this life you will experience a great deal of fulfillment when you focus on people. You could be the smartest person ever, the greatest musician, the best athlete but if you don't pour into the lives of other people what are you doing with your life? Relationships with other people lead to happiness.
With undergrad being over and graduation on Saturday, I can wholeheartedly say that I am leaving Bethel with a full cup. Before the taco gang it was half way. The taco gang filled up those finishing touches that couldn't have been filled at a better time.
Be intentional, be open, share friends, invite new people, be open, be honest, do fun things, choose to hang out with some new friends rather than sticking to what you're used to. There is power in exploring new things such as seeking out as many relationships with people as possible. We were created to be relational human beings.
Take chances and don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. On Saturday I was cleaning my room and doing laundry when one of my new friends called me asking to get some froyo and pizza with a group of people from church. I was in the middle of laundry so I really didn't want to leave. I was also a little bit intimidated by the fact that I only new one person who has going to be there. My friend called me again, and I knew that was a sign that I needed to go. I thought to myself... my time here at Bethel is almost over and I need to try and meet as many people as possible before it's over. Life is short and you never know when your life could end. I wish that I would've been more intentional because of all the people I met the last couple weeks but then again, I don't think I would've learned as valuable of a lesson. My cup also might not have been full when I left.
Lastly, I want you all to understand that people are awesome. Love others. Your life will change according to how much effort you put into getting to know other people.